I had fallen in love and wanted to know everything about this incredible man, including what had happened.Being with someone whose first wife has died – a wife he loved very much – has the potential for a difficult subsequent relationship: a past love that can never be matched (not that it should be a competition), a woman who doesn’t grow old, rosy-hued memories that will only ever gain lustre, worries about comparisons that can’t be checked face to face. It was an innocent request; with innocent expectations. She was so reluctant; it took a miracle for her just to say “Yes” to coffee. People say that the death of a loved one, loss of a job and moving house are three of the most stressful situations – and we had to endure all three at the same time.I'm 39, and like many younger bereaved people, I've had to get used to a word I never thought would apply to me: widower.
“I met a man on Seniors Meet and we have been together for a while now,“ she says.
Not surprisingly, a study at Michigan State University discovered that people 65 and older who used the Internet to stay in touch with friends had a more than 30 percent reduction rate of depression symptoms.
In other words, no matter the age, people need people.
About a year after Mort’s death, Mary felt ready to start taking baby steps to move on and meet new people.
“Mort had been a hunter and had promised to teach me how to shoot,“ she says, “but we never got around to it.” When a shooting range, started by two former SEALS, opened near her home, Mary decided to learn what she had missed with husband.